Relationship counselling in Limerick with Colette Linehan. Learn how counselling can support you by Creating Calm Counselling

Relationships can be one of the most rewarding parts of life, but they can also become strained through stress, communication difficulties, parenting pressures, financial worries, health concerns or trust issues.

Relationship counselling offers a confidential, supportive space to better understand what is happening between two people and to explore healthier ways of communicating, resolving conflict and rebuilding emotional connection.

What Is Relationship Counselling?

Relationship counselling, sometimes called couples counselling or marriage counselling, supports people who are experiencing difficulties in their relationship. It is not only for married couples or couples in crisis. It can also be helpful for people who are dating, engaged, co-habiting, in long term partnerships or trying to decide what the future of the relationship should look like.

The aim is not to blame either person. Instead, counselling helps both people understand the patterns, communication styles and emotional responses that may be affecting the relationship.

How Is Relationship Counselling Different From Marriage Counselling?

Marriage counselling usually refers to support for married couples, while relationship counselling is a broader term. It can include married couples, unmarried couples, people in committed relationships, engaged couples, dating couples and those navigating separation or uncertainty.

If you are specifically looking for support as a couple or married partners, you can also learn more about marriage and couples counselling in Limerick.

When Might Relationship Counselling Help?

Every relationship experiences periods of pressure. Seeking support does not mean the relationship has failed. In many cases, counselling gives both people the space to pause, reflect and understand each other more clearly.

Communication difficulties

You may feel unheard, misunderstood or unable to speak openly without the conversation turning into conflict.

Trust issues

Relationship counselling can support people working through betrayal, insecurity, infidelity or broken trust.

Parenting stress

Differences in parenting styles, tiredness and family pressures can place strain on even loving partnerships.

Emotional distance

Some people attend counselling because they feel disconnected, lonely or unsure how to rebuild closeness.

Recurring conflict

You may find yourselves having the same argument repeatedly without feeling understood or reaching resolution.

Uncertainty about the future

Counselling can help people explore whether they want to rebuild, separate or understand each other more clearly.

What Happens During Relationship Counselling?

At Colette Linehan Counselling, also known as Creating Calm Counselling Services, relationship counselling is carried out in a confidential, supportive and non judgemental setting.

Initial Assessment

The first session is usually an information gathering session. Both people are gently encouraged to share what has brought them to counselling and what they hope to achieve.

During the initial consultation, Colette may ask about:

  • Your relationship history
  • The issues you both feel you are currently facing
  • Your communication patterns
  • What each person hopes to achieve through counselling

Joint and Individual Consultations

Most relationship counselling sessions involve both people. However, in some circumstances, individual consultations may also be recommended to explore personal issues that may be affecting the relationship.

Communication Styles and Skills Training

Communication is often central to relationship counselling. Sessions may explore how each person listens, responds, expresses emotion and manages difficult conversations.

Couples may learn practical skills such as active listening, expressing feelings constructively and creating space for both people to feel heard.

One of the valuable aspects of relationship counselling is that each person has time to speak, while being supported by a trained professional who helps both sides understand the impact of the issues on the relationship.

Conflict Resolution and CBT

As an experienced Cognitive Behavioural Therapy practitioner, Colette may use CBT informed approaches to explore how negative thought patterns and behaviours can affect the relationship.

This may include identifying unhelpful thinking, improving emotional responses and using practical exercises between sessions. Homework can be an important part of CBT, helping clients continue the work outside the counselling room.

Exploring Emotional Intimacy

Relationship counselling may also involve exploring emotional closeness and vulnerability. Sometimes, going back to the beginning of the relationship can help people reconnect with what first brought them together.

This may include questions such as:

  • What initially attracted you to one another?
  • What made you decide to get married, live together or commit to the relationship?
  • What have you found most fulfilling about the relationship?
  • What would emotional closeness look like now?

These conversations can help lay the foundation for greater understanding, emotional connection and change.

Colette Linehan’s Approach to Relationship Counselling

Colette Linehan provides relationship counselling in Limerick through a professional, confidential and supportive approach. Her work is client centred, non judgemental and informed by her experience as a CBT practitioner.

Colette’s qualifications include a BA in Counselling and Psychometric Testing from the Irish College of Humanities and Applied Sciences, as well as a BA (Hons) in Counselling and Psychotherapy. Her work is also supported by ongoing Continuing Professional Development.

Her approach is collaborative. This means she works with clients to explore what is happening in the relationship, while supporting both people to develop greater awareness, communication and healthier patterns.

Frequently Asked Questions About Relationship Counselling

Is relationship counselling only for married couples?

No. Relationship counselling can support married couples, co-habiting couples, engaged couples, people who are dating, people in same sex relationships and those in committed partnerships.

Will the counsellor take sides?

A professional counsellor remains supportive and neutral throughout the process. The aim is to help both people feel heard and understood, while supporting healthier communication.

What if my partner is reluctant to attend?

This is very common. Many people feel nervous about opening up or worry they will be judged. Counselling is designed to be supportive, confidential and non judgemental.

How many sessions will we need?

The number of sessions depends on the issues involved and the goals of the people attending. Some people benefit from short term counselling, while others prefer longer term support.

Can relationship counselling help with communication?

Yes. Communication is one of the most common reasons people seek relationship counselling. Sessions can help people understand communication patterns and learn more constructive ways to express feelings and listen to one another.

Relationship Counselling in Limerick

If you are struggling in your relationship, counselling can offer a helpful space to understand what is happening and begin making positive changes.

Colette Linehan provides relationship counselling in Limerick for people experiencing communication issues, conflict, emotional distance, trust concerns, parenting stress and relationship uncertainty.

Sessions are available in Limerick and online. To get started, you can book an appointment with Colette or call directly.

Book Relationship Counselling in Limerick

Support is available if you are ready to explore your relationship patterns, improve communication and work towards healthier connection.

Call: (087) 279 8553

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What is Cognitive Behavioural Therapy-CBT-and how can it help me? by Creating Calm Counselling

What is CBT and how can it help me?

CBT is a structured form of talk therapy, evidence-based at helping people to manage feelings of anxiety and depression. See my contact form here to arrange a consultation or visit Colettelinehan.com to see some reviews of my work.

How is a structured approach to talk therapy helpful?

CBT  is helpful because it aims to get straight to the heart of the matter in a guided manner with no need to talk about past issues.

Structured CBT Talk Therapy adopts the following format: Each session opens with a mood check, previous homework is reviewed, the agenda for the session is set, specific topics are worked on and further homework is given.

Having worked as a CBT Therapist for 13 years now, I have witnessed first-hand how using the structured approach of CBT has helped many clients!

What does CBT “Homework” involve?

In CBT clients are taught about useful management techniques such as-between sessions-writing daily about their thoughts & feelings in a journal or thought diary, practicing relaxation techniques and behavioural experiments.

What is a Thought Diary?

This is a thought record which can be used to track, to analyse and to challenge negative thinking patterns.

Keeping such a record allows us to observe how a triggering situation affects how we think. How we think generally has a knock-on influence on how we feel which, of course, does impact how we behave. These findings are discussed in-session.

What are some examples of relaxation techniques?

Some helpful relaxation techniques which I discuss with my clients for use both in session and at home are:

Diaphragmatic breathing-slow, deep breathing in through the nose for a count of 5, then slowly out through the mouth for a count of 5 also. This is repeated a number of times until the client begins to feel quite relaxed.

Progressive Muscle Relaxation (tensing/releasing muscles) and using Guided Imagery to imagine a calm, peaceful scene are other relaxation techniques which clients find helpful

 

What are Behavioural Experiments?

This involves taking small steps towards achieving that goal-the one which brought us to therapy to begin with!

Let’s use the example of the client who is feeling worried and overwhelmed about an upcoming social event.

In-session client and therapist would have conducted an Evidence Check around the client’s thoughts and feelings surrounding this upcoming event. What is the evidence for/against these thoughts?

Fact Vs Thought: Am I confusing a fact with a thought?

Worst Case Vs Realism: What is the worst thing that may happen if I attend the social event? Is this actually likely to happen in reality or am I just fearful that it may happen and could I cope?

Perspective Shift: Am I projecting past worries and anxieties onto a future event which has not taken place at all yet? Am I engaging in Catastrophic thinking? What would I suggest or advise a friend to do given a similar set of circumstances?

Behavioural Experiments, therefore, aim to put into practice the skills which have been learned in CBT sessions with the aim of utilising these skills as part of one’s everyday ritual when triggering thoughts are experienced.

How long does CBT take to work?

CBT helps by providing a clear goal-oriented roadmap aimed at challenging and reducing the effects of negative thinking. See the contact form here  to arrange an initial consultation. Sessions are available face-to-face in Limerick or online.

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Practical strategies for managing emotional distress by Creating Calm Counselling

Cognitive Behavioural Therapy-CBT-is founded upon a simple yet powerful idea: our thoughts about a particular situation-not the situation itself-shape how we feel and consequently how we interact within our environment.

 

An essential coping strategy is the acronym ACCEPTS-a set of practical techniques designed to help individuals tolerate and deal with overwhelming emotions in the moment.

 

What does ACCEPTS stand for?

  • Activities
  • Contributing
  • Comparisons,
  • Emotions
  • Pushing away
  • Thoughts
  • Sensations

A- Activities 

Immersing oneself in activities helps to shift attention away from distressing thoughts by keeping one’s mind & body occupied

C- Contributing

Contributing to others-volunteering, offering support, helping-moves attention outward rather than inward

C- Comparisons

Making comparisons involves objectively reflecting on times when our distress felt worse than currently, or acknowledging that others face similar or even greater challenges

E- Emotions

This strategy means intentionally generating different emotions using meaningful memories such listening to music, watching a film or perhaps using humour

 

P-Pushing away

Pushing away refers to temporarily ‘shelving’ distressing thoughts-not suppressing them indefinitely but compartmentalising these negative thoughts and postponing engagement with them

 

T- Thoughts

This CBT strategy means an attempt to redirect one’s attention to structured thinking-engaging executive functioning-factual thinking in that moment over emotional reactivity

 

S- Sensations

Sensations involving physical stimuli-holding ice, taking a cold shower or smelling a strong scent cause emotional arousal to decrease and cognitive clarity to improve.

 

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